"Tough times don't last but tough people do." - A.C. Green

I am tough... probably the toughest person I know.

2010 started out wonderful. I got a roommate whom I love, a new single best friend, a fun and friendly ward, exciting job, etc. Things had been going really well and I felt like my life was finally being put back in order. I finally started to feel like I was “over” my divorce and back into the fun and single life.

Then I got a bomb dropped on me.

I found out that Tyler committed suicide a few weeks ago. I couldn’t believe it. I was devastated. It just sounds so unlike the Tyler I knew and loved. During the last year of our marriage, Tyler struggled with depression and feelings of inadequacy. I hadn’t had much contact with him the past eight months. Neither his family nor I knew how bad it really was. It just breaks my heart to think that he ended up in a place like this. I could go on and on speculating and asking questions that I will never know the answers to. Instead, I will do as my dear friend Allyson said, and “remember the good times”.

Tyler was the most thoughtful person I know. Everything he did, he did for others. I don’t think he did a single selfish thing. He even left me because he thought I would be happier without him. He genuinely cared about everyone around him and wanted everyone to be happy.

Tyler made me laugh. All the time.

Tyler loved me so much, and from what I heard, never stopped loving me.

Tyler had big dreams. He wanted to go to law school. He interned in Boise and love working with the people and dealing with agricultural rights. He was a hard worker and had great potential in this life.

Tyler was so smart. There were so many times I talked with him and would have to look up meanings of the words he used.

Tyler tried so hard to do the right things. I know he had a sickness, but he tried so hard to overcome the adversary.


A friend sent me a card with this wonderful quote:


I love how simple, yet powerful it is. This has been an extremely difficult time for me, but I am getting through it and moving forward. I have learned from this experience that things aren’t always as they seem. You never know what is going on with someone. You never know what burdens they carry. We really have no right to judge anyone or think negatively of them. I need to make more efforts to help those around me. I need to find the positive in everyone and every situation. I am learning how to be more compassionate towards others. I know I will continue to learn more as I move towards becoming a beautiful butterfly.